“I Don’t Care,” a Mother’s Loving Message to her Children

For some, it’s time in the bathroom.  For others, it’s that dream that awakens them at night.  For me, it’s driving.  Many times my inspiration for new posts comes while behind the wheel, a narrative forming as I go for groceries or take my kids to activities.  I liken it to a meditative state.

So you probably shouldn’t be on the road with my Honda Odyssey (JK).

I wish I had a hands-free, voice-activated recorder so I could save the thoughts as they come, because when I sit down at my computer I can’t articulate those thoughts nearly as well.

But I’m gonna try.

My kids recently donated to Project Merry Christmas.  Their enthusiasm playing Santa for children in need was contagious and their compassion filled my heart.  They took the reindeer reins on this mission; my hand in it amounted to passing over the credit card.  As they carried their bulky sacks of cheer to the donation center (they didn’t even ask me to do it), I reflected on how my husband and I want to raise our kids.  Times are always uncertain, but in the fresh wave of uncertainty our nation is now experiencing, our hopes for our children are brought into a sharper focus.  We don’t just want to raise good kids, we want to raise happy, thoughtful, compassionate kids who act to make the world a better place.

We live in an achievement-oriented society.  Academics and sports and music classes are all important in their own way but character, much more than mastering long division or bending a soccer ball, is the guiding light through a fulfilling life.  So this is my message to my kids, one I try to convey, somehow, everyday:

I don’t care if you miss a few notes at your music recital, mistakes help you grow and learn.

I don’t care whether you play sports or join a theatre group, as long as it’s your choice, not mine.

I don’t care if you are in a “Gifted and Talented” class, I just ask that you do your best.

I don’t care how long your resume is, but take pride in what you do.

I don’t care if you go Ivy League or to a community college, as long as it’s the right place for you.

I don’t care if you become a high-powered someone or a humble worker bee, as long as your vocation inspires you.

I don’t care if you are heterosexual or homosexual, I hope you find a long-lasting love.

I don’t care what cause you make your own, as long as it motivates you to make the world a better place.

I don’t care what others think, I care deeply and profoundly…about you.